Rita Andersona month agoI'm in a relationship with a man (M28) who sometimes seems to think that his feelings for me are stronger than mine, which isn’t true. I'm just not as naturally expressive when it comes to showing affection, but I do care for him deeply. I want to show him that my feelings are just as strong and make an effort to love him intentionally. For example, I know little things like putting socks on his feet when he falls asleep in the cold (Brooklyn 99 reference, if you get it!) could show him that I care. I’m looking for more ideas like this—small, thoughtful gestures that can help me express my love for him in meaningful ways. Any suggestions? Response & Advice: Leave Notes or Texts: Sometimes, simple messages can go a long way in expressing your affection. Leave a sweet note in his jacket pocket or send him a heartfelt text just saying something like, “Thinking about you today, I appreciate all you do for us.” Small Acts of Service: Beyond the socks, you can show you care by doing little things that make his life easier or more comfortable. For instance, making him his favorite breakfast, getting him his favorite snack, or helping him with a task he doesn’t like can show that you’re thinking of him. Physical Affection: If words don’t come as easily to you, physical touch can be a great way to show affection. Simple gestures like holding his hand, giving him a hug, or lightly resting your head on his shoulder can communicate warmth and love without needing to speak. Create Shared Moments: Doing something together that’s just for the two of you can strengthen your bond. Whether it's watching a show together that you both enjoy or taking a walk, it’s about creating moments that show you value your time together. Verbal Reassurance: If he feels like his feelings are stronger than yours, it might help to verbally reassure him from time to time. Saying things like, “I really appreciate how much you care for me” or “I’m lucky to have you” can go a long way in letting him know you feel the same way. Be Intentional: Showing affection doesn’t always come naturally to everyone, but being intentional about it can make a big difference. For example, if you know that he’s been having a stressful week, you could surprise him with something he likes—whether that’s a favorite meal or a relaxing activity that helps him unwind. Listen Actively: Sometimes, showing affection isn’t about physical touch or gifts—it’s about listening to him when he needs to talk. Being present and truly listening to his thoughts and feelings can make him feel loved and valued. Final Thoughts: Showing affection doesn't always have to be through grand gestures. Small, intentional acts that cater to his preferences can really help him feel loved and appreciated. It’s great that you want to put in the effort to show him that your feelings for him are just as strong. Start with small gestures, and over time, it will become a natural part of your relationship. The most important thing is that it comes from the heart! 143
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