Pamelia Eppiea month agoI’m a 33F from downtown Chicago, and I’ve been dating my boyfriend (37M) who grew up in Greece and Albania. We’ve been dating since May, and recently became exclusive. Communication has been spotty at times, and I’m feeling heartbroken after a recent incident. For example, in July, he went on a trip with friends and mentioned visiting a strip club. When I brought it up, he ghosted me for four days, saying I was being disrespectful. The weekend after New Year’s, we went to Miami. The trip was great until the last day. After a night of little sleep, we went to a hotel bar for lunch, where we had a small argument because he was flirting with the bartender. I told him I was annoyed, but he explained that he enjoyed seeing me get “riled up.” Later, at a restaurant, a woman from another table came over, commented on how in love I was with him, and wouldn’t stop talking to us. It made me feel uncomfortable, especially because I haven’t yet told him that I love him. She eventually took my seat at the table, which irritated me further. It felt like he was trying to make me jealous. When I returned to the table, I asked him if I should leave, and he told me to sit down, saying I was being rude to the woman and disrespectful to him. He was very upset, and I immediately apologized, explaining that I was wrong. Afterward, he became distant and stonewalled me all the way to the airport. At the airport, I cried and tried to explain how the whole situation had made me feel insecure, but he said that he felt disrespected because he paid for everything during the trip, and if he invites someone to join us, I should respect that. He said he could have gone with friends instead and gotten attention from other women, but he chose to bring me. I apologized profusely, and he finally seemed a little less cold, and we cuddled on the flight back. He was picked up before I was at the airport but called to check in on me and told me to text him when I got home. Once I got home, I texted him that I made it safely, but since then, I haven’t heard from him. I’ve sent a couple of texts asking how he’s doing and shared some pictures of my new office. It’s now Thursday, and he hasn’t responded to anything, and I’m starting to feel heartbroken. I’m not sure if he’s punishing me, if he’s thinking about breaking up with me, or if he’s just busy. What can I do to make him forgive me for making him feel disrespected and get him to start talking to me again? I’m so confused and hurt right now.142
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