Paulette Alitaa month agoMy (25F) boyfriend (33M) has had a complicated past with his ex (33F), and we all come from the same small town, so it’s hard to avoid drama. My boyfriend was with his ex for 5 years, and from what he’s told me (though I only know his side), their relationship was on and off for the last 3 years. She was a serial cheater (which the whole town knows), and he stayed with her longer than he should have because he was concerned for her 3 kids from a previous relationship. They all lived with him, and even though they had broken up, he didn’t want to kick them out. Eventually, after several months of telling her to leave, he finally started talking to me, but only after he made it clear to her that their relationship was over. The situation with his ex had been going on for about 8 months before we met. To be clear, I wouldn’t have gotten involved with him if it weren’t for my trust in our mutual relatives. So, we began talking and eventually started dating, but she was very upset. She started texting him constantly, and when he blocked her number, she tried using her work phone and even had her 12-year-old daughter send messages on her behalf. She posts about missing him on social media and makes public posts bashing him and calling him names. It’s weird, but I didn’t think much of it—until recently. On New Year's Eve, we were at his house, watching a movie, when we heard a noise outside. We thought it was just kids playing pranks, but when we went to check, we realized his house had been egged. It was strange because his house is at the end of a cul-de-sac, and no one else’s house had been targeted. After reviewing the footage from his driveway camera, we saw three people throwing eggs, but the video was too blurry to clearly identify them. We asked around, and his cousin (who’s dating his ex’s relative) recognized the niece by her outfit. He’s 100% sure it was her. We know that the ex has been telling her family and the public that my boyfriend cheated on her with me and kicked her out, which isn’t true, but they don’t know that. So, we’re left wondering if the niece is doing this out of loyalty to her aunt or if the ex herself asked her to do it. At first, we just let the phone calls and social media posts slide, but the fact that someone came to his house—especially knowing he has security cameras—makes me uncomfortable. What if it had been something more dangerous, like a rock through the window? I feel like things will escalate if we don’t do something. How should we approach this situation?1692
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