Coleman Stephena month agoI (18M) have been in a relationship with my girlfriend (18F) for almost two years, but recently I’ve been struggling with our differences, especially as we prepare to head off to college. We seem to have very different views on money, our future, and even where we want to live. I value financial independence and plan to minimize expenses during the next few years. She, however, enjoys spending and doesn’t have the same mindset about long-term financial planning. It's not that one way is right and the other is wrong; we just think about money very differently. Additionally, our life goals are in conflict. She wants to stay in our hometown because of her attachment to her dogs, while I’m 95% sure I’ll move out for college. We also want different things in life—she wants three kids, but I only want two. I’m interested in pursuing a career in corporate or law, while she wants to work at an aquarium. I’m scared of losing her because I know she loves me unconditionally, but I also worry that staying together might hold us both back from following our individual paths. It’s hard to imagine breaking up, but I also feel like this is a path I need to take on my own. Is breaking up the right decision? I don’t want to hurt her, but I think our differences might be too big to overcome. I need advice on how to handle this situation.135
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