Alice Chipa month agoI (23F) have been dating my boyfriend (25M) for almost 11 months, but we’ve known each other as friends for over a year before that, so we’ve been in each other’s lives for nearly two years. I care deeply for him, but I’ve noticed he has a lot of unresolved issues and trauma. Despite me trying to subtly encourage him to go to therapy or even just sharing how much therapy has helped me with my own struggles, he continues to say that therapy "doesn’t work" for him. To give some context, he used to work as a counselor for troubled teens, so he’s knowledgeable about therapy and different methods. I’ve even suggested that he try writing about his experiences to help process his emotions, but he’s dismissed that idea too. This weekend, I reached a point where I realized just how much he’s struggling and that he hasn’t healed from a lot of things, despite insisting he has. Now, I’m considering giving him an ultimatum: either he agrees to try therapy for at least a few sessions, or we break up. I really don’t like the idea of giving an ultimatum, though, so I’m wondering if there’s any way I can help him see the value of therapy without threatening our relationship.1102
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