Britney Gretchena month agoI’m a 33-year-old man, and my partner, a 28-year-old woman from Pakistan, and I had been together for about two years. We met in 2022 and developed a beautiful relationship full of love, travel, and shared moments. I was head over heels for her and felt this was the most mature and adult relationship I had ever had. We had cultural differences due to our backgrounds—she’s Muslim and Pakistani, I’m Italian and Catholic—but I was fully willing to adapt, even considering converting to Islam for her. After about two years, we decided to move in together for the first time. We struggled to find a place in Toronto, so we opted for a temporary sublet an hour away. Around this time, she started acting differently. She became more distant and critical of my understanding of her culture, though I tried to educate myself. We also had a tense situation involving some old Facebook photos of mine, which caused her to doubt me briefly. Eventually, we managed to work through it. But things took a turn when she began to distance herself emotionally, spending less time at our new home and more time in Toronto. She lost her job, and I ended up paying for rent and groceries while she promised to pay me back. Then, as her trip to Pakistan loomed, she became more distant, avoiding me and spending nights elsewhere. Despite this, we had a few positive moments leading up to her departure. She even joined my family for Christmas, where we showed her love and hospitality, but then, after Christmas, she broke up with me, citing cultural differences as the reason. She packed up her things, leaving me to deal with everything—moving her belongings, cleaning up, and taking care of the lease. She showed no emotion, even asking me about her airport outfit while I was clearly devastated. She texted me after arriving in Pakistan, telling me she never wanted to talk to me again. To make matters worse, she still hasn’t paid me back for the money I covered for her. Now, I’m left alone in a house far from the city, dealing with the aftermath of our relationship. I feel heartbroken and betrayed, and I’m unsure whether to fight for this relationship or leave it alone entirely. I also wonder if she may have been unfaithful, considering her sudden emotional distance. I haven’t reached out to her at all, but I’m not sure what the right move is.144
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