Beulah Christya month agoI'm a 21-year-old guy in a relationship with my 21-year-old girlfriend. We've been together for about three years, meeting during our first year of college. Now, as we’re finishing up our final year, I’ve realized that my expectations are starting to cause issues between us. We spend a lot of time together, averaging 3-4 hours a day, but certain things are bothering me. For example, on New Year's Eve, I wanted to start the year with her, but because she lives in a village where people tend to go to bed early (around 9-10 PM), I couldn’t spend the night with her. Another issue is that I sometimes expect flirty or nude pictures from her, even though she doesn’t feel comfortable sending them. I fully respect her boundaries, but when she asks me for similar pictures, I have no issue sending them. We’ve been intimate, but I find myself expecting more in that area, too. During arguments, I tend to need reassurance from her, and often ask her to repeat things multiple times, which seems to frustrate her. All of these instances stem from my over-expectations, and I can see that it’s affecting our relationship. I really care about her and don’t want to lose her, so I need some advice on how to manage my expectations better and make our relationship stronger.142
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