Everest Algera month agoMy (30M) girlfriend (30F) and I have been in a relationship for two years. A while ago, we bought matching journals and agreed that they would be private—neither of us would read the other’s journal. I trusted her and kept my journal in a drawer by my bed. While I was at work, she sent me strange texts, so I called her, and she sounded really sad. I asked what was wrong, and she said she wanted to talk about “us.” She then told me that she had opened my journal to leave me a cute note but ended up reading the last entry. She apologized for reading it but said she’s having a hard time moving past what she saw. The entry in question contained some personal reflections, including my doubts about our relationship, some FOMO from my early 20s when I didn’t date much, and bad dreams about her leaving me or being with someone else. I also mentioned searching online to see if others had similar thoughts and feelings. I didn’t mean to imply I was actively considering cheating or opening up the relationship, but some of what I wrote made it seem that way. This entry was part of my emotional processing after a bad dream and didn’t reflect any intention to act on those thoughts. When she read it, she misunderstood my intentions and felt like I was hiding things from her. She said she has trouble trusting me now and doesn’t believe what I say is how I really feel. I, on the other hand, feel betrayed because she read something private, even though we explicitly agreed not to. I understand her hurt, but I’m struggling to empathize because I think it was a violation of my privacy. I still love her and want to be with her, but I feel like trust has been broken.143
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