Brad Eastona month agoHi! I’m a 35-year-old woman recently divorced after being married for 15 years. My marriage had been over for a while, so I was ready to move on. I decided to explore a casual friends-with-benefits arrangement since I didn’t want to repeat the one-night stands I had in my younger years. I found someone in a similar situation — a 34-year-old man who had recently divorced after 17 years — and we were both looking for the same kind of thing. Within just two weeks of talking, I spent the night at his place, and we had a great time. We watched 4 Marvel movies, had pizza, and spent half the night together in bed. We’ve been texting every day, and we’ve discovered so many things in common. It’s honestly a bit bizarre how much we’re alike: the same upbringing, similar life experiences, our past relationships were pretty similar, we enjoy the same music and movies, and even have the same sense of humor. We literally even have the same coffee order. It feels like he’s an extension of myself. I started staying over at his place every Friday since we both have that time free from our kids. A couple of weeks ago, I accidentally told him I love him during a passionate moment. Then last night, as we were falling asleep, I said I loved his eyes, and he responded with “I love you too.” Neither of us acknowledged it at the time, but we both have been hesitant to discuss it because neither of us wants commitment. However, it’s all developing so naturally and quickly, and it feels really good. The issue is that we’ve both only been single for a couple of months, and I’m starting to question whether this is a rebound or if I’m becoming attached too quickly. I’ve never been single before, and I really want to figure out who I am and what I want for myself. I don’t want a relationship right now, but I’m starting to fall pretty hard, and I don’t know how to slow it down — or if I even want to. I love being loved, the good morning texts, the cuddles, and being with someone who likes me for who I am, even if I’m a mess. Should I take a step back and give myself some space? Do I tell him I’m starting to feel more than just friends? Or should I just let things play out and see where they go? TL;DR: I’m falling for my FWB soon after my divorce. I’m not sure if it’s a rebound or if I’m just getting attached too quickly. Should I slow down, be honest about my feelings, or let it unfold? Help!151
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